Since Darcy was born I've been surprised by the amount of comments about his birth order in our family. Yes, he is our 4th child but NO this doesn't make him or his birth any less important than our 1st.
I guess it all started with the fact that B wasn't able to be there for his birth. I was met with comments about me being an old hand at this birth thing so I didn't need him anyway... This is so not true. I do wish he would have been there for the birth of his 4th child. It was just as special as the birth of his 1st.
And well the comments have kept coming, and not just the comments really. But the lack of acknowledgement from family and friends too. I guess that might come down the digital age that we live in now and well, Facebook too. Yes they may have liked a picture or typed the words congratulations on a Facebook post , but there were markedly less phone calls and text messages than when the other three kids entered the world.
There were only a handful of cards received in the mail too. And that makes me sad. I've kept the cards from when the older three were born and can notice the gradual decline as our family grew. But little Darcy received a grand total of FOUR cards. FOUR.
I just wish he was welcomed a little more into this world by our extended family and friends. Don't get me wrong, some of our family and friends did acknowledge his birth more than enough. It's just the ones that didn't haven't gone unnoticed.
Did you notice that as your family grew the excitement and well wishes decreased?
*Please note that I realise that these comments are made with the best intentions, but sometimes they just hurt.
I totally hear you! And I don't think it has anything to do with the digital age, I had just as few visitors and well-wishes for natalie as I did for Sophie. And not one single person remembered Sophie's first birthday, which hurt more than anything else.
ReplyDeleteI'm sure it's just the fact of knowing that your really busy with the kids and your new bundle of joy that people are giving you a break from having to worry about reading our comments and just enjoying some quiet family time. But I understand feeling down about it too, it's not really the same but I was in the hospital on & off for 6 months for a total of 6 surgeries and had a total of 5 visitors not including husband. Hospitals are a very depressing place to be. I also understand it's a very important event to become a new Mommy whether it's your 1st or 10th it should be celebrated by everyone as it is such a blessing. Keep your spirits high & just think of your wonderful little family.
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Sorry to hear your disappointment, Lovely Lady. I did notice a difference in interest with my second to my first child, but I also noticed that I was much busier and don't have as many photos of my second either. Hope you're still enjoying your special time with a little one again.
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Congrats. My sister has 8 and she copped a lot more cheekiness and eye rolling instead of excitement by the time she announced her last two pregnancies or so, and little acknowledgment outside the immediate family. Sad but don't let it get you down. Your baby's place in your family is what counts and it is a very special one :)
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